How to Get A Clean Slate With Your Ex

by Erik J. Michaels

When you have just been broken up with your ex, you find yourself with a lot of questions. What do I do now? How do I fix this? CAN I even fix it, or is all hope lost? Well, rest assured…all hope is NOT lost. This is a completely fixable situation if you know what you are doing, and I am here to help you out in that regard.

Forethought: where did all this come from? If you are going to succeed in getting your ex back, you are going to have to accept that there were problems in the relationship that you are going to have to be responsible for addressing. Your ex has dealt with them in his own way, leaving you…which means it becomes your problem to handle them if you want to get him back, and it will not be as simple as a quick apology.

To help you out, I have written this article for you as a guide to some of the things you should do to wipe the slate clean with your ex and make him far more likely to give the two of you another chance. It wont be as easy as snapping your fingers, but if you plan your moves carefully it can fall into place as easy as can be.

1) Sever your ties with him completely for a period of approximately a month. Doing this will help to make sure that the bitter feelings and intense emotions flying around right after the breakup dont negatively affect what is left of your relationship. If the two of you are separated for awhile, the hot blood of the breakup will cool down and often be replaced by memories of the good things between you…making the idea of a reunion far more appealing.

2) Keep from making the classic and most common breakup mistakes: Drunk Dialing and Text Message Terrorism. Late-night, alcohol-induced loneliness could hurt your chances just as much as a bombardment of constant messages, calls, or emails. These mistakes not only defeat the point of not contacting him, they also shatter any decent image of you he may have had and drive him mental trying to avoid you…neither of which is a good thing if you want him back.

3) Be sure to have a plan, its absolutely critical! Nobody is born prepared to handle a breakup without any forethought or rehearsal…we all need some kind of organization and strategy or else we will just end up sabotaging our own efforts by not knowing what to do in a given situation. Make good use of your separation, and plan your method for getting him back. In a few minutes, I can help you with that.

The rule about not contacting your ex is not just for keeping from getting yourself in deeper into trouble, although it certainly does have that intent to it. Its also about giving you time to research and organize a real plan, to make sure you can deal with the situation as it comes up. Being prepared for this can mean the difference between getting him back and losing him forever.

Remember that you will have to do some work on this, it wont just fix itself. An apology and a kiss wont solve these problems, so you need to solve them yourself. Having a plan makes it all the easier because you know what to expect and how to deal with it. I wouldnt advise for anyone to try to get your ex back without at first thinking it through and coming up with a strategy to accomplish it.

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